When it comes to texting a girl you just met, one tiny mistake can ruin everything. It can be helpful then, to have a set of texting rules that will keep you from slipping up while answering that age-old question, “Should I text her?”
For some texting advice, here are five of the common mistakes guys make in the dating scene when texting girls—and what you can do to avoid them.
- Giving up too easily on your text messages to a girl
- Texting a girl too much
- Taking your texts to a girl too seriously
- Not texting enough women
- Missing the big picture when it comes to texting women
1) Giving up too easily on your text messages to a girl
One mistake guys make when texting girls is giving up too easily. They’ll text a girl, and if they don’t get a follow-up text (or just get a brief reply) they’ll assume the girl isn’t interested and give up.
But this is often the biggest mistake guys make.
After all, the reasons a girl won’t respond to a text message sometimes have nothing to do with whether or not she’s interested. For instance, she might be in the middle of a busy day, in a bad mood, or simply unsure of how she wants to respond to your text. The point is you don’t always know what’s going on when you text a girl, so there’s no point in assuming the worst.
And even if you’re right and she isn’t interested at that moment, that doesn’t mean she won’t change her mind. But if you’re going to change her mind (and get her to start texting you), texting etiquette requires you to stay engaged.
So if a girl doesn’t text you back or doesn’t seem that interested, but you want to stay engaged, here’s what you can do. Give her a bit of time. A few hours probably isn’t enough. Give it a few days, or even a few weeks. Then re-engage the girl with a text.
Like all texts, you want the re-engaging text to the girl to be light, fun, and playful. Be the cool person who isn’t bugging her about texting back. Also, you’ll have better odds of getting her to respond to your text if you ask a question that compels her to reply.
Here’s a real-life example of what a good re-engaging text to a girl may look like:
Hey crazy face… are you still alive? Should I send a search party of midget ninjas (or ninjas as they prefer to be called) to come rescue you?!
Keep this light, fun, playful tone in your texts to a girl will get her smiling and you will put her in a good mood. If you can get her to smile, you’ll likely get a text from her soon.
2) Texting a girl too much
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