I typically like to frame these discussions in a positive perspective but I do think it’s important that we occasionally look at the other side. Most people are more than willing to talk about what will make a man a success and, while I agree that’s an important subject to cover, just as important is the discussion of what is going to keep you from accomplishing what you want.
So today, in an attempt to keep you from falling into some of the same traps this humble man has fallen into a time or two, I’ll share with you 6 reasons why men fail and, in doing so, help you find a new path to thriving in what we call the Quadrants (yourself, your relationships, your health, and your wealth).
PRIDE COMES BEFORE THE FALL
The number one reason most men fail, and the reason I fail from time to time is pride.
I’ve talked about it before but we have been led to believe that if you don’t have the answer, you’re an idiot or less of a man.
It’s unfortunate that’s the case because it drives us to go at it alone, to figure out things the hard way, and to struggle, when all we really have to do is reach out to someone who may know a few things more than we do.
The solution is simple: recognize you don’t have it all figured out and ask for help from someone who does.
Want to get in shape? Ask someone what you should do to get in shape.
Want a promotion? Ask someone to help you with the project that will help you secure your promotion.
Want to shore up the relationship with your wife? Ask someone who has a great relationship.
The solution, again, is ask. Humble yourself and reach out
YOU DON’T HAVE AN INFORMATION PROBLEM; YOU HAVE A DISCIPLINE PROBLEM
When I started Order of Man in early 2015, I knew there wasn’t a lot of new information I could share with men. But what I recognized is that information isn’t really the problem.
You have access to more information in the palm of your hand than the most educated minds had a hundred years ago. Information isn’t the problem. Action (or lack thereof) is. And, more specifically, sustained action.
Motivation doesn’t cut it. Accountability doesn’t cut it. The only thing that will yield the results your after is consistent action towards your objective.
When that alarm goes off in the wee hours of the morning, it’s time to fight. It’s time to engage. It’s time to battle. All you need is to DECIDE.
FEAR IS YOUR ENEMY
We’ve all heard the acronym F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real). I disagree. Fear is real. It’s designed to keep you alive.
Running from the things that scare you, or worse, pretending it doesn’t exist will not get you closer to your goal.
Facing the enemy that is fear will. When you’re scared, acknowledge it. Recognize it…
