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Let’s talk about Nice Guy Syndrome.
My friends sometimes call me a Mister Nice. I’ve written plenty of articles about alpha males and nice guys like myself before.
Here I’ll show you what I’ve learned and why being a nice guy can sometimes hurt you in the long run.
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What is the Syndrome of a Nice Guy
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Nice Guy Behavior is a term for a man who is outwardly nice and approachable but, in reality, can be motivated entirely by self-gain.
By its most common definition, people with the symptoms of a nice guy are typically males who have been conditioned by their life and society to believe that the only way to be accepted is to be kind and agreeable to others. Because of this belief, they try to disguise the darker and more unlikable parts of themselves from others, fearing rejection and abandonment by others.
Eventually, these people begin to feel entitled to have intimate relationships with others because of their niceness and feel personally wronged when they don’t get what they want. They don’t realize that nice guys finish last because attracting the opposite sex isn’t a matter of just being superficially nice; it’s just a simple chemical reaction.
Virtues of a Nice Guy In A Relationship
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Being a nice guy might seem like it’s working at first – you might earn some friendships and maybe even spark something deeper. However, keeping up this nice guy persona is mentally exhausting, which can strain the relationships he’s formed. By constantly trying to live up to his ideal self and denying what doesn’t fit, he ends up putting unreasonable expectations on himself. These expectations can be draining and might seriously damage any meaningful relationship he creates.
Another aspect of displaying the virtues of a nice guy is that, because of the belief that all he needs to be accepted is to be nice, he begins to feel superior to others. If he believes he’s being nice all the time, sometimes he can be tricked into thinking he’s entitled to the affection of other people. Especially when it comes to women, he might be led to believe that he’s especially attractive to them and might feel wronged by them when it doesn’t happen.
What women want in a man differs depending on the woman, but being nice to women doesn’t prove that the guy is a beacon of masculinity – it proves that he…
